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How to Fall in Love With Anyone
You know how how people can meet, have a few drinks, spend the night talking to each other and sharing things about themselves, and then realize the next day that they’re in love?
Yeah, well some scientists figured out how to reproduce it. In a lab. Here’s a description of the study by someone who tried it:
I explained the study to my university acquaintance. A heterosexual man and woman enter the lab through separate doors. They sit face to face and answer a series of increasingly personal questions. Then they stare silently into each other’s eyes for four minutes. The most tantalizing detail: Six months later, two participants were married. They invited the entire lab to the ceremony.
So they tried it and…also fell in love.
It all comes down to revealing things about yourself (trusting), and hearing revealing things about the other person (receiving trust). Add some eye contact and you’ve got chemistry. Get it? Chemistry in a lab. It’s a play on…
Anyway. Never explain jokes. Especially bad ones.
Here’s the methodology:
Ask each other a bunch of very personal questions [ LIST ]
Stare into each others eyes for four (4) minutes
That’s it.
The questions are things like:
Would you like to be famous?
When did you last sing to yourself or someone else?
And then they get increasingly personal and revealing. You basically end up revealing tons of things about yourself to someone else, and they do the same with you.
Then you add the eye contact.
Does this sound familiar at all? It does to me. It’s how people NORMALLY fall in love. That’s what’s so genius about it.
It’s basically the natural love formula reduced to concentrate, which you can do with anyone over two hours and 36 questions.
Fascinating.
It’s also turns out to be a map of how to seduce people. Get them to talk about themselves. Get them to reveal personal things, and do the same about yourself. Say things like, “I’ve never told anyone this…”, and have them tell you the same (but for real).
Then the eyes thing again.
BOOM. Done and done.
Humans are hackable moist robots. Use your powers wisely.
Notes
I like the idea of doing this ever year with your significant other. A rejuvenation project. Like a facial for your relationship.
Here’s the original article I learned about this from. It’s worth the full read.
Image from Brian Rea.
This is also a good list of things to avoid doing with someone you don’t want to fall in love with.