I have a friend who I’ve always wished I was closer to. He is one of the kindest and happiest people I know.
He’s like an ancient power source that produces hugs, smiles, and laughter.
He’s also famously popular with women. Everywhere I see him he’s surrounded by multiple girls tying to learn more about him. It’s like holds court with the best and most beautiful wherever he goes, except the court is based on having a good time instead of being pretentious.
And he likes to party. He brings it with him. As soon as he shows up, that’s where the alcohol is, that’s where the women are, and everyone immediately starts having one of the best times of their lives.
Then he met a girl.
This girl pulled him from that world. She changed him. She showed him what it meant to be a better person, and he became one just by being near her.
I only heard about this from a distance. Through other friends.
He met someone. Someone who changed him.
I was going to see him at EDC this year, but he didn’t come. I was going to text him and give him a hard time about why he wasn’t there, but decided against it. He probably regretted not coming and would only feel worse if I pinged him.
I’m glad I didn’t.
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He told me that they had tickets to EDC, and that they planned to surprise me and my friend Jason there. He was so fucking happy that we’d finally get to meet her.
But he didn’t come, and we didn’t get to meet her. Because she’s gone.
The woman who changed him so completely. The woman who had rebuilt him from the inside out. She came into his life in an instant, and then left in another.
And now he is devastated.
I just talked to him and tried to give him the best advice I could for dealing with something where advice cannot matter.
I wish I had met her. I wish I had known this beautiful person who has affected my friend in this way. The woman who has touched and improved his life in such a short time. I am so sad that I din’t meet her.
He’s been working on ways to continue propagating her energy in this universe. I asked him to try to explain what she was. What she was to him. I want to know this. I want to experience it. For him, and for her.
I am here if you need me, my friend, and I am so sorry for what you have lost.