I wrote a piece a short time ago called There’s No Such Thing as Gay, which, of course, wasn’t actually saying there aren’t gay people. It was about how I believe the term is confused in the minds of most. It was a clumsy argument, so let me try and clarify.
The image above of this nice couple in Atlanta captures my argument succinctly. This is not a same-sex couple in the way that most people think it is. What you are looking at is a man and a woman.
The man (on the right) is wearing no makeup, is wearing a suit, has a masculine facial structure, and is walking his woman down the stairs. The woman (on the left) is done up with hours of hair and makeup like any standard American female at a wedding, and is wearing the standard dress. And when they were married legally, the woman took her man’s name. That is to say that Kristen (the woman on the left) took the name of Maria (the woman on the right).
Why is this interesting? Because it shows that gay people aren’t actually combining boys with boys and girls with girls. No. They’re actually combining boys with girls, and girls with boys–just like everyone else.
The detail that makes them somewhat different from the majority of male-female pairings is that one of the parties (or perhaps both) has outwardly visible physical traits that indicate the opposite gender. Why, in the 21st century, does this matter?
In other words, gay people often aren’t being gay at all, i.e. they aren’t matching gender roles. Many are acting just like everyone else–with the man being the man, and the woman being the woman. They just get there a different way, and it’s absurd to even consider limiting their rights based on that. ::