I find it highly peculiar that most Americans find it perfectly normal for a 25-year-old woman to be getting divorced for the first or second time, but treat the same woman like a leper if she isn’t yet married. This is especially true in the highly religious South.
- Divorced multiple times? Eh, that’s the way it works these days…
- 25 and not yet married? What the hell is wrong with you?
Relationships by marriage don’t work, just as morality by fear of God doesn’t. It’s an artificial union — one far more likely to break than the real thing. Why is it that atheists have lower divorce rates and are virtually unaccounted for in prison?
Internal vs. External
I think it’s because when you’re moral just because it’s “right”, it means much more than when you’re moral because someone told you to be. And it’s the same for marriage. When you’re in a relationship just because you want to be, rather than because, “that’s what you’re supposed to do”, you tend to have higher quality relationships.
And that’s what you see in the south. Everyone is married with children because, “that’s what you’re supposed to do.” It amazes me to see virtually no single people over 25 in the south. If you do see one you know one of two things:
- They’re not from the South.
- They’re between marriages.
And it’s not just the south; it’s anywhere that’s highly conservative/religious. Yet those are the same areas with the highest divorce rates, domestic violence, teen pregnancy, and all sorts of other ailments. 1 Doesn’t that make sense, though? It’s artificial morality enforced by a diseased culture, and that’s why it’s failing.