Given a divorce rate in America hovering at around 50%, I think I will always call my fiance my “girl” rather than my “wife”.
When an 19-year-old says:
I went to the coffee shop with my girl today; it was fun.
…it implies that there were many girls he could have gone to the coffee shop with, but that this is the one he is totally into, so he went with her.
But if a 43-year-old says:
I went to the coffee shop with my wife today: it was fun.
…this is most likely to mean they were just both there at the same time. Perhaps I’m jaded from seeing so many shallow and unhappy relationships.
Anyway, when I refer to my woman I want it to always be with the context of active choice to be with her, and not some responsibility like kids or the unpleasantness of divorce that prevents me from being with someone else. ::