The Difference Between Pursuing Happiness and Pursuing Meaning

This is a brilliant piece about the difference between happiness and meaning, or, more specifically, the difference between pursuing a happy life vs. pursuing a meaningful life. I suggest you read the entire thing, but here are some choice pieces of it. Examining their self-reported attitudes toward meaning, happiness, and many other variables — like […]

LIfe, Friendship, and Ambition

They say you are a composite of your closest friends, and given my ambition I often grapple with a balance between seeking to surround myself with those with similar goals and those who I’ve been close with for many decades. On one side I have a clear path to significant improvement through association with those […]

This Essay Might Improve Your Life

From Confused, you say, “How does any of that fucking matter when my (wife/husband/best friend/parent) is lying here bleeding! I need somebody who knows how to operate on bullet wounds! Can you do that or not?!?” Now the man becomes agitated — why are you being shallow and selfish? Do you not care about […]

Friends in Vegas

I already did a post on my recent Vegas trip, but there’s a piece of it that I didn’t mention. Working in my current job I have had the privilege to be able to hire many of my friends, and going to Vegas this time (our team meeting) I was able to see it for […]

What’s Your Heinlein Score?

Robert Heinlein wrote a book a long time ago called Time Enough for Love in which he described all the various things a human being should be able to do. It closely maps with Ralph Waldo Emerson’s concept of a full person, evidently. Go here to calculate your score on this test (your Heinlein score). […]

Your Friends Define You

Bottom line: If the main topic of conversation you have with your friends is not how you can better yourself, you need to get new friends. This is the most important line, but I suggest you read the whole thing to see how the author got there. I’d say this is perhaps the most important […]


Today. Today I had lunch with an aunt I don’t visit enough. I then had tea with Susan and we drove on the 101 while she DJ’d from her iPhone. She sang to me. Now we sit in our sunlit SF apartment listening to The XX, drinking Yerba Mate. From this position of perfection, I […]

We Wronged the Star Wars Kid

We were wrong for laughing at the Star Wars kid, and the guy who was reduced to tears by a double rainbow. Double light sabers and double rainbows are, in fact, as cool as they made them out to be. We shamefully laughed at them, when we should have been swinging and weeping with them. […]

Unhealthy Happiness

A post over on Hacker News reminded me of something I’ve been wanting to write about for a while, which is the concept of “bad habits” like excessive shopping or overeating really being happiness problems. The quote that triggered my thought was: Obesity is the result of finding your happiness in food. The reason I […]