What Do Women Find Sexually Attractive?

By Daniel Miessler on February 1st, 2009: Tagged as Sex | Women

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I’ve done a lot of study on sexual desire in women over the years, for a number of reasons. One of the primary reasons, however, is that it’s still an area that hasn’t been sufficiently explained by science.

This article over at the New York Times is an excellent summary of where science is today in understanding the desires of women, and if I had to sum it up it’d be something like: women are sexually attracted to most types of sexual behavior–even stuff they claim not to be attracted to.

It’s been known for a while now, for example, that many straight women are attracted to women–even if they’re also attracted to men. I’ve always had something of a pet theory about this, which goes like this: women are attractive to both men and women because they’re beautiful and humans find beautiful people attractive. But to be attracted to a man one must have a particular modification–a disorder if you will–that allows it.

It would seem logical that this would be for evolution purposes; evolution would have to make men attractive to women to keep the species going, but this wouldn’t necessarily reduce how attractive women find women.

Anyway, just a thought I’ve had–not really a full theory. One thing this doesn’t account for is the myriad of experiments where gay men have shown very little sexual reaction to attractive women.

But yeah, it’s a great read if you’re into this type of psychology. ::

[ What Women Want | nytimes.com ]

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http://adam.younglogic.com Adam Young

I think the term disorder is a little loaded. I've too many homosexual friends to term it that.

I once explained to a gay friend of mine when he wondered at, for the first time in his life, he was attracted to a woman. Since he was a programmer, I termed it this way: It has eben a long time since Sexuality could be stored in a Boolean.

Anti-homosexual attitudes are a little too vocal amongst men. A case, as the bard said, pf protesting overmuch. I suspect that much of the core of that article would apply to both men and women.
Bill

I think your summary misinterprets what the quoted experts say: that for women, physical effects (increased blood flow, etc…) are often present even when the woman doesn't feel aroused. The point I took away from the article was that women have the physical effects of arousal for nearly all types of sexual activity, but that that it is decoupled from actual desire.

Then again, that's making the assumption that the women in the studies aren't lying to the investigators (and themselves) about feelings of desire. I do find it interesting that you seem to assume that they are lying about it (or maybe you just skipped the end of the rather long article).
stjimmy111

LoL. so u mean a woman or girl's pussy nerves isn't connected to her brains??
and woman can get orgasm while getting raped??
shouldn't that be a great experience?
why they report the rapist and send them to jail for something that they are clearly enjoying?
shouldn't the woman thank the rapist and tell him that she had a good time?
all i can say is women are cunning and evil..
they lie all the time, especially when it comes to sex and love
stjimmy111

good to hear the news, now there is one less gay guy in the world.. keep it up and world will be free of gays. lol.
but i find it illogical for gay to be a disorder and lesbian to be normal,
should be both are disorders.
it doesn't matter anyways, cuz woman really dunno wat they like, as if some of the nerves that connects the pussy to the brain has been disconnected.
as u can see from the experiments, they like rape fantasies the most, so the best will be to legalize raping to fulfil their fantasies, only prosecute those rapist that cant achieve orgasm for the woman
lol
stjimmy111

LoL. so u mean a woman or girl's pussy nerves isn't connected to her brains??
and woman can get orgasm while getting raped??
shouldn't that be a great experience?
why they report the rapist and send them to jail for something that they are clearly enjoying?
shouldn't the woman thank the rapist and tell him that she had a good time?
all i can say is women are cunning and evil..
they lie all the time, especially when it comes to sex and love
stjimmy111

good to hear the news, now there is one less gay guy in the world.. keep it up and world will be free of gays. lol.
but i find it illogical for gay to be a disorder and lesbian to be normal,
should be both are disorders.
it doesn't matter anyways, cuz woman really dunno wat they like, as if some of the nerves that connects the pussy to the brain has been disconnected.
as u can see from the experiments, they like rape fantasies the most, so the best will be to legalize raping to fulfil their fantasies, only prosecute those rapist that cant achieve orgasm for the woman
lol
Women

Women like to “evaluate” other women, wether its attraction or jealousy. I would never notice if my gf does her nails, cuts her hair an inch shorter or even sometimes changes her hair color from brown to black but women allways see notice that in other women.i believe that evolution got them to be jealous of each other for competitve reasons, its just missing how guys use it :)

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