Comments on: The Nice Guy Paradox [Solved]

By: MAYORULES

MAYORULES — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 06:56:00 +0000

i used to be an atrractive person when i was young everyone said i was cute. it was kind of cheesy, my parents spoilt me but i was very outspoken and speak with vigour now when my mom died, every thing jus changed from 15 to 18 no one really wanted to be my friend , i was loser, i thought becus i was shy, girls are still attractive to me, but when they find i have no confidence and shy big wussy , money making, boring they back off . they dont want anything so i went to the internet saying i should not chase women,i never really chase women in my entir life , having connection with women so so it is all bullshit , amm 6 6 tall handsome every time but confidence that is all i ve no girlfriend . so i chased women said u look good spoke to at least 5 women but did not get no connection. they think i have a big ego but find out i have no confidence and a big pussy unlike my brother ugly i envy him in a good way he is fat but funny , but was a nice guy until his girlfriend made him turn to a bad boy. i can talk to any woman now i hav got confidence i dont care if i dont have women. I WANT TO THE CHALLENGE. DONT BE NICE FOR BEING NICE BE BAD TRY AND ATTRACT HER AND BE WITTY

By: Daniel Miessler

Daniel Miessler — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 23:01:49 +0000

You'd be more convincing if you wrote well. Confusing there and they're damages the credibility.

By: The Unveiled

The Unveiled — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:52:19 +0000

Sorry May… I meant to post the reply to “Aaron” the retarded cretin who posted below.

By: The Unveiled

The Unveiled — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:51:27 +0000

Wow, Aaron sounds like a real man... NOT! I guarantee that Aaron is a semi-retarded loser who is in his 30's and still lives with his parents. The stupid fuck can't even make a coherent statement.

He claims to be six foot, six inches and "good looking, powerful, an make 10K a month" [sic]. It is easy to lie on Teh Inturnets. Anything to feel better about being 5'5" but weighing 230 lbs., making $9 an hour, and looking like someone swatted a fly on his face with a 20-gage shotgun shell (but having survived much to the chagrin of everyone).

Point # 1 is incoherent. He doesn't want gay kids. I wouldn't want a borderline-retarded monstrosity like "Aaron" to have ANY kids, and would personally castrate or euthanize him if I could. However IF he were to have kids we should hope they all turn out gay so as to minimize the chance of reproducing and thus perpetuating "Aaron's" defective DNA. The remainder of the "sentence" is so gramatically poor as to be entirely incoherent. But from what I can gather "Aaron" is unaware of a blatant contradiction he stated. Aparently he believes being gay is "genetic" and something people choose to do to be "trendy." Well it can't be both, retard! (And he says something about being "a sign your extremely stupid" [sic]... oh the irony!) One must wonder if "Aaron's" incoherent homophobic mumblings are a reflection of his own severely repressed homosexuality. Hey "Aaron," why did you take a break from looking at gay porn in your mom's basement to post your idiocy on this blog?

As to point # 3, this is especially a problem for a fat, lazy dumbfuck like "Aaron" who NEEDS a woman to take care of him, lest he is restricted to a diet of fastfood and TV dinners while lounging about in feces-stained clothing in a dorito-crusted basement.

Regarding point #4, "Aaron" the closet faggot made a point about American women being obese. Granted, this is a real problem. However, I guarantee that his massive gut was hanging out of a too-tight white Dorito-stained T-shirt while typing said statement, and that the hypocrisy and irony were lost on him. (Notwithstanding his obviously false claim to being "6'6, good looking, powerful" [sic].)

Of course, my favorite line was this: "However AW didn't count on the fact theres over a billion foreign women out there who'll slit everyones throats to get a rich kind American Man"

Too bad that "foreign women" are often classier and more attractive than American women (or "AW" as the borderline-illiterate author of the above post calls them). I somehow doubt they would be going for broke, obese, ugly, moderately retarded losers like "Aaron." (Speaking of which, how does someone with an IQ of 75 or less make $10,000.00 a month?)

P.S. I made numerous references to "Aaron's" parents' basement, but I neglected the possibility that his parents do not have a basement because their house is on wheels. It would not surprise me in the least to discover that Aaron is from a long line of inbred trailer trash.

By: The Unveiled

The Unveiled — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 22:50:40 +0000

By: The Unveiled

The Unveiled — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:52:19 +0000

Sorry May… I meant to post the reply to “Aaron” the retarded cretin who posted below.

By: The Unveiled

The Unveiled — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:51:27 +0000

By: The Unveiled

The Unveiled — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:50:40 +0000

By: Papa

Papa — Wed, 12 Aug 2009 21:03:49 +0000

It's not the end to be shy and too nice. I'm 42, and have only been single one year since I was 18. My first gf gave me her number, told me when to call, after the date: told me to kiss her, touch her already etc. My 2nd stole me from the 1st by shutting off the lights and kissing me as I tried to leave a room not knowing I was being seduced. My 3rd stared at me all night, at a social, until I got drunk enough to just walk up and kiss her without a word. Later, she made #4 jealous and who became my shadow and followed me to bed one night instead of leaving. No 5 got horney from a foot massage on a train and exploded with lust. Not to mention lotsa one nighters and stuff.

I have: no confidence. can't dance, drink too much, bad teeth, one eyebrow, weak chin, skinny arms and no ass, speak too quiet and mumble, have to repeat myself, not rich, never make the 1st move, always miss body language, and avoid eye contact. ie) DID everything wrong, and yet have always had fit, pretty gfs. I know perl, assembler, basic, php. Have buck teeth.

By: George

George — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 17:03:52 +0000

Women are evil and sadistic. That's really all their is. If they didn't have pussies they wouldn't be worth talking to.

By: George

George — Wed, 11 Mar 2009 13:03:52 +0000

Women are evil and sadistic. That's really all their is. If they didn't have pussies they wouldn't be worth talking to.

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By: Dan

Dan — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 17:03:52 +0000

I agreed with everything you said except for the last paragraph. You don't have to attract a mate through "sheer force of masculine character." Emotions are fickle and easily confused. It is common to associate emotional pain with love, something I call Dawson's Creek Syndrome, and believe that you cannot be emotionally satisfied without also being emotionally distraught. Obviously this isn't true, but the two feelings are so often associated with each other that it's an easy confusion to make.

As you said, women want men who don't HAVE to be nice to them to be nice to them. More often than not, they've associated men who treat them poorly as being of higher stature than they are. Ergo, I would argue that at least 1 out of every 3 times, you can treat a woman like crap, and she'll grovel at your feet. No need to be all that masculine, actually.

By: Cris

Cris — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 04:21:06 +0000

I thought about this for many years and came up with a different solution.

Women like guys who are nice to them, while simultaneously being a jerk to other women.

You see a nice guy is nice to me, and nice to other women, so I'm nothing special. A true jerk is always a jerk, so I'm nothing special. But a full time jerk, who is rude to everyone, but then suddenly nice to me, means that I must be special.

Think about it. You see a hot girl, dating a complete jerk. But he's only a jerk to you and everyone else. To her he's slightly less a jerk...

By: name

name — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 00:22:19 +0000

Daniel Miessler [virgin].

By: Mr. Obvious

Mr. Obvious — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 22:53:02 +0000

Just let me put the facts together. You couldn't get a date so you gave up and then some time later you married the first girl who asked you out…and here's the kicker…you don't really like women anyway.

By: biker dude

biker dude — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 20:37:08 +0000

so true!!! the main ting is when talking to girls treat them like they are your friends hide your feelings and dont ever tell you like here. once you had her say it but not every day. a man's word is his property dont give it away for free...

it kind of helps to be seen with cool people have cool things. bling bling like a bike ;-)

By: Teri B

Teri B — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 20:34:59 +0000

Not really. I find traditional alpha male factors: physical size, money, power--a rather huge turn off. That said, I don't care for "nice guys" (in quotes) either. Heartless Bitches International has it best (http://www.heartless-bitches.com/), it's not about not being nice, it's about having a personality. This article is indeed right about not being a doormat, having a spine, and not groveling being important, but there's no need to be alpha. Just have something ELSE going for you in addition to being "nice"--be witty, be charming, be funny, be able to contribute to our mutual social interaction and enjoyment please. Be someone we'd want to be around, in general. Engage us in entertaining banter, tease us, interest us, etc--you can do all that and still be nice.

Not a lot of guys would want a doormat nice girl either, who has no personality other than sniveling after whatever guy has caught her fancy.

By: Juliet Burgess

Juliet Burgess — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 20:28:51 +0000

I love it when men generalize like this. "Women like powerful men to be nice to them."

GFY. Women like respect and honesty. People can sense when you're playing mind-games, trying to figure how to be the person someone else could possibly want, rather than just being yourself.

By: rob

rob — Mon, 02 Feb 2009 17:55:35 +0000

The niceness approach is never going to work on a woman that has a low opinion of herself. The inner voice seeks validation in the external world, and so whatever opinions the individual holds of herself she looks for confirmation in the ways others treat her, especially men. The reason why A LOT (not all, though) of women end up with (and stay with) men that treat them terribly is because their men validate their own low self-esteem. And the mind always seeks harmony with its own views, even in dysfunction. It makes a lot of sense when you consider the media barrage of impossibly thin, physically flawless models that bear little to no resemblance to actual human women. Given the saturation of these types of images, it's little surprise that many women have such issues with self-image.